How do you define emotional intelligence? There are many definitions, but I believe that the first we should ask two fundamental questions: “Is this a must-have for the good leader?” and “Can this be learned?”
An emotional intelligence is two times more valuable than our IQ level or the technical skills. And, yes, it most certainly can be learned.
The key thing is to be aware that emotional intelligence comprises five components, which every leader should know and follow. So, an emotionally intelligent person is:
I think it’s a crucial factor. Sometimes, unless we don’t see or say something, we do not truly realize that. We do not believe in that. That’s why it’s worth to verbalize some important things, just to make them “real” and inevitable. You need to understand yourself, who you are, where are you heading, are you satisfied with the quality of your life, whether you want to change your life and how. The answers to these questions will affect your mood and in turn they will affect others when you interact with them. Whenever you feel sad or angry, not willing to engage, believe me, others can see it, and it can affect them. People are different, some are more emotional, some are less. But the impact of our emotional state on others is visible and should not be downplayed.
Based on the previous factor, you need to think before acting because every decision in some way affects others. If it’s a bad choice, it might also be bad for others. Think before you make any irresponsible call at any point of a discussion.
Stay motivated. Don’t sit and wait, but build and create: relationships, solutions. A motivation of any kind drives great teams to success. After you thought through your next step, motivate yourself to achieve even more. To reach out further, to go beyond. Never stop learning and challenging yourself.
Read between the lines. It’s not that you need to sacrifice your time and life for others, helping them fix their personal or other problems, you just need to know that they exist. Showing empathy to others is very important, especially for the emotion-driven people. Just a simple fact that somebody shows interest, cares, says a nice word can change people’s attitude for the better. It can make a difference. The conviction that you’re not alone helps you keep going.
HAS HIGH SOCIAL SKILLS
You need to engage. Be active in your team’s life. No matter how odd it might sound. People admire leaders that are among them and don’t sit somewhere in a distance only to oversee things and give orders. Not only should you be a good collaborator with your team, but you also need to value and appreciate this quality in others. Each employee is different, requires a different approach to get the job done. Try to assign to all employees tailored roles, based on what they are best at. It will make them feel recognized, appreciated, and therefore more devoted. You need to see their strengths and value them, but also help them fight their weaknesses.
Nothing is more important than a respectful leader, actively engaged in collaboration with his or her team. A leader that supports in achieving greatness and developing new skills, and protects from harmful decisions. Remember that when they win and achieve greatness, you achieve greatness with them. It’s the most precious and rewarding feeling that leadership can offer, and the best answer to the question if it’s worth doing or not.